Miscommunication In The Family

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Also, they have no flexibility within the rules and that is why teenagers obfuscate and tend to take distance from their parents. St. Martin's Griffin suggests that families should understand and support each other and the best way to accomplish that is by listening to each other’s points of view. However, if parents and teenager disagree, they have to make an effort until they reach a consensus.

“When it comes to gaining teenage compliance, parental orders, threats, and punishments with a stubborn adolescent usually have less persuasive power than listening, empathizing, and explaining because the last three alternatives convey respect, while the first three do not.”( Pickhardt, C.E. ,2009, para n.13). The author wants to make us think about the possible solutions parents may have. If there is collaboration from each other, there will be no problems because they help to create an agreement from both parts.

To conclude, I believe that miscommunication is fundamental and we must cooperate in this process and be willing to listen to one-another person’s opinions. However, I feel identified with teenager attitudes regarding parents. As an assumption, when we are teenagers, we tend to take distance from our parents because we do not know how to make agreements and it is difficult to communicate since our parents raised us with rules and it becomes difficult to understand that when being a teenager, you look for new opportunities, experiences and you want to do anything with your own rules.

That is why, it is important to develop communication skills with family members, because it is the only way to build up trust, respect, and most important of all, mutual cooperation.

References

http://www.sld.cu/galerias/pdf/sitios/puericultura/desarrollo_adolescente(2).pdf

Casas Rivero, J.J. & Gonzalez, Fierro, M.J. (2005).

Desarrollos del adolescente. Aspectos físicos, psicológicos y sociales.

http://www.clemson.edu/psapublishing/pages/FYD/FL521.PDF

Thames, B.J. & Thomason, D.J. (1998).

Building family strengths and communication.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescence/200908/parentadolescent-conflict-fighting-communicate

Pickhardt, C.E. (2009).

Parent adolescent conflict. Fighting to communicate.